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Nov 16, 2021

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I built an entire business out of changing people’s perspective – turns out, it was my perspective that needed to change.

Don’t get me wrong – I love what I do and I will continue to do it and am so proud of the work I create and the people I get to work with. As one of my clients says “for some women, they need to be able to see themselves differently on paper in order to really, get it.” But I think that’s just the beginning.

For many of us, our entire lives we’ve been fighting what we’ve been told or what we’ve told ourselves about ourselves. Then you hire me – and a team of professionals come in and show you the person you’ve always wanted to be.

Well…now what?

The fashion industry gave me everything I need to help you start to see yourself differently on the outside. Life beyond the industry has given me what I need to help you see yourself differently from the inside.

As the survivor of domestic violence and someone madly in love with the idea of being able to save “my addict,” I have had to change my perspective – it become life or death if I didn’t. And it is painful and hard and recovery is not linear. But one thing I’ve discovered from the work I do, is that real beauty shows up in those rare moments of vulnerability. And I can’t ask you to be vulnerable if I’m not willing to do the same.

So this blog is now dedicated to sharing the lessons I’ve learned or am learning in order to walk through trauma with grace. Its a place where I will openly share my experience, strength and hope with you so that you can take what applies to you and know you are not walking alone.

Even if you don’t feel that trauma specifically applies to you, keep coming back. Learning to change your perspective, discovering the person you’re intended to be and continuing to grow is possibly one of the most beautiful things you can do for yourself and for those you love – and you’re worth it.

Thanks for letting me share,

P.S. Here are a few posts to get you started…

“How I became a co-dependent.”

“5 Ways to Gaslight Yourself.

“Time as an Ingredient.”

Nov 13, 2021
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In an instant—the way I looked at myself changed.

So I was listening to a podcast recently [I love me a good podcast] and
artist Ben Von Wong was talking about time. Ok, so he really started off talking about bread. He said something to the effect of:

“When you make bread, you have flour, salt, water, yeast etc…, but you
also have time. If you poke it too early or don’t let it rise, it falls. So, what
if time is an actual ingredient?”

Then I thought – what if time is an actual ingredient to healing, to
growth, to what God [Higher Power, Universe] wants to do in our lives? What if time is an ingredient in who we are becoming?

I like that; because I can very quickly feel like a failure for not being
farther in life then I thought I would be, for not recovering [bouncing
back] from trauma as quickly as I would like, for not being able to “fix”
things right away.

But if time is an actual ingredient, I can remove them as perceived
failures and better accept that dreaded statement I hate so much – “time
takes time.” 

If it’s an actual ingredient, I can trust that the “bread” WILL get made and that I’m not failing because it’s taking more time than I wanted. Who
knows, maybe the more I try to fix/control [aka poke at the bread], the
worse it gets. 

*Probably why I don’t make bread either…LOL.  

I know this is isn’t necessarily photo related but it does help me change
my perspective about how I look at myself. So, I thought you might
enjoy it too 🙂